Life And Love, Where did I go Wrong Pt 1

Hello all I am writing this blog to bring some insight to people and their lovelife and relationships. I have been in a few serious realationships (haven't we all) and I have come to realize some specific flaws in relationships that all of us are either guilty of or have suffered as a result of. This will be a several part series covering everything from infedelity to selfishness and more so please keep up with this blog as it progresses through every wrong turn of every relationship.

Today I will start with communication. As most of you know communication is a detramental key to every sort of relationship but it is especially deteramental for you and your signifigant other. There are many aspects of our lives that involve communication, successful communication in order for us to succeed in our relationship. Unfortunately not all of us know how to communicate properly, in fact most of us have no idea how to. So lets take a in depth look at communication defined as: Communication: a process of transferring information from one entity to another. Communication is commonly defined as "the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs. There are three major parts in human face to face communication which are body language, voice tonality, and words. According to the research:

55% of impact is determined by body language—postures, gestures, and eye contact,
38% by the tone of voice, and
7% by the content or the words used in the communication process.

By now you're probably wondering how does this affect my communication skills in my relationship. Well we tend to overlook all the forms of communication. 55% of communication is done through body language alone, that's over half. So half of what we say is said through our body language. Which means that we tend to read each other in that way. This can present problems in terms of our relationship because we can say one thing with our words but our bodies tell a different story and of course this can cause confusion in the way our signifigant other percieves what we are trying to say. 38% of communication is conveyed by the tone of our voice. This is obviously a easy form of communication to understand. If we are upset you can hear it in our tone of voice and no matter what we say verbally our tone says different. Easy enough right? 7% by the content of our words, thats not alot at all. Most think that communication is what we say, but thats not true, only 7% true. We have to be aware of what we say and how we say it and how our body language represents what we are saying. Communication is not easy for most people. I certainly know that from experience. In order to be truly successful at communicating with each other we must try to intergrate the three major forms of communication to properly convey what we are trying to communicate. Not to say that your partner will always understand what you are trying to say. Learning to use all the forms of communication can be helpful in learning to understand what your partner may be trying to communicate as well. You can practice these forms of communication to yourself. Yes, I am telling you talk to yourself. Look in the mirror and try to use common sense to realize, am I saying things in a way that will represent how I feel clearly, will my partner be upset if I communicate in a way that I wasn't intending. Try to understand how you tone of voice and your bodily actions can convey an entirely different message than what you intended in the first place, which can offend or confuse your partner and cause arguments that would have not otherwise been a problem. Always try to understand that most of us don't know how to properly communicate and that a little love and understanding can go a long way in learning to communicate with our partner. If you are confused as to what your partner is trying to communicate, use a little communication yourself in trying to understand your partners feelings, and ways of communication.

I hoped you enjoyed the first part of my Life and Love series, and I look forward to brining you the knowledge that I believe can possibly save your relationship or at least help you not to make the same mistakes twice in the next relationship you may have. Thank you for your time and for reading my blog. Like I said before I will be covering several topics on relationships and the problems they endure. If you find this article to be helpful in your lovelife, or life in general please, please keep track of this blog for more insigtful information. Also soon I will be launching a website for people to post their specific problems and I will do my best to adress those problems. Also there will be blog pages called LET IT OUT where you can talk about your problems without feedback. Just a healthly way to say whatever you may be going through, expressing your pain through blog pages.

I have included a video that I thought to be very informative in terms of understanding how communication works and how we can use it effectively.